Men With The Cold Feet: What To Do If He Suddenly Stops Calling

Ladies never get to the point of understanding why a man will hunt them down, practically harass them into giving him a chance, and just when you begin to settle into the comfort of a new, possibly great relationship, man develops cold feet and suddenly stops calling, and that too, with absolutely no obvious reason!

This usually leaves the girl confused and angry and wondering what could have gone wrong. Probably, the most painful part of it all is that you find yourself often blaming for yourself for the behavior of the man. If you find yourself in this really awkward situation I’m here to tell you a number of things you should or should not do.

1.Don’t Call Him To Find Out What Went Wrong

I know this is against our natural instincts as women, but trust me it’s for your greater good. It’s a lot easier to move on when you decide to leave matters be. If a man lacks the courage and manliness to communicate something as important as why he feels he can’t go on with you, he is low class, disrespectful and insensitive or maybe he’s not. He’s definitely not the kind of man you’d want to be with. So no matter how much you feel like having closure, realize that the best closure you can have is to move on and you must develop the discipline and self esteem to do so.

2. Decide what to do with his contact

you will have to decide whether or not you still want his contact on your phone. You might want to leave his number on, possibly to be able to identify his call one day he remembers you, and wonders how you are doing and decides to call. My advice to you is: Don’t. Keeping his contact reserves a space in your heart in which you are still hoping he calls someday and that is not healthy for you, especially if you truly want to move on from him. Delete his contact. And if one day, he decides to call, have him identify himself like any other unknown caller.

You may have to keep his contact for very important reasons though, so set limits. Decide as far as it goes. revert back to strictly business if need be.

3. Don’t Expect Him To Change His Mind, He Probably Won’t

Expecting or hoping that he would change his mind and come back someday can very easily drive you to the edge of frustration. Remember, your goal is to move on from him. Hoping he’ll change his mind is counter productive and dangerous to you. You are probably too young to think it’s only that one man that is left in the world for you. Remember, no one is the one until he’s the one.

4. Don’t Stalk Him On Facebook or Other Social Networks

Stalking a lost love interest on Facebook is a very unhealthy thing to do. Realize that more than finding out what coulda gone wrong, your self esteem is important and you should be more concerned with preserving it. If possible remove him from your Facebook, he no longer has any business being there . You definitely don’t want to keep people in your life who made you feel bad about yourself, and tried to break you.

5. Don’t Begin To Second Guess Yourself

People who have gone through situations like this can tell you how it could make one feel awful like one has a terrible defect. Don’t let any body do that to you. You are still a wonderful woman- lovely, complete and phenomenal. The fact that one man or two is too blind to see what rare gem you are does not make you any less special. Continue on you journey and forget the encounter. Remember, how people treat you is a reflection of who they are not who you are.

Don’t go over analyzing the situation or obsessing over it. It is what it is. Don’t keep thinking you deserve an explanation for why he behaved the way he did. Rather, choose to examine it positively. Whatever you do, make sure you move on. Remember, you are exquisite and rare, and any man whomever he might be, that treats you with that level of disrespect does not deserve you.

But then, I have to throw this open. Ladies, how best do you suppose this kind of situation should be handled? Guys, your advice…?